If you are a new dad and you are looking for more love from your wife, love your children and do your daddy job accordingly. US sociologists have discovered that fathers who take better care of their children and perform their duties actually had an increased level of satisfaction with their relationships. And when everybody is happy, everybody enjoys extra goodies.
The study was conducted on approximately 900 married couples and it seems like people who split the responsibility for their children equally are overall happier than those who don’t. In the cases in which women were mostly, or even totally, responsible for child care the relationship resulted in being a lot colder and sexless for both mother and father.
Daniel Carlson, a researcher from Georgia State University, US, stated that there is nothing bad about being a dad with responsibilities. Fathers who are actually performing their duties well live better than those who don’t and this has a positive impact on the entire relationship, both with children and the wife.
Clarson also mentioned that “being an engaged father is very important to men”. This is a conclusion based on the high level of satisfaction that was detected. If fathers were just performing child care duties just for the sake of doing it, without necessarily caring, the levels of satisfaction would definitely be lower than those detected. Being an engaged father is important to them and to mothers as well.
There is one problem however: dads cannot take all the responsibility. It was concluded that men who take up all the responsibilities for their child are the source of bedroom issues. Women declared that a father who takes care of all baby issues leaves room for a more pleasant sex life for them, but not for the man’s. Men who are fully responsible for the baby’s wellbeing are least satisfied in the relationship.
Carlson also mentioned that the study had two, very important limit: it only included heterosexual couples and sociologists did not check who was feeding and bathing the child. These two are very important because they are known to be “a mother’s job”. So not knowing anything about these variables can influence the perceived results.
The study and its conclusions were exposed at the American Sociological Association’s annual meeting which took place in Chicago and more details are expected to be revealed soon.
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